Bonding is an ongoing process, not a one-shot deal. It refers to the emotional attachment formed between baby and its caregiver. Some people are of the opinion that bonding begins even before birth.


Ways to bond with Baby

Spending time with baby, meeting and responding to all her needs strengthens your bond.

• Lie on your side on the bed with baby facing you. Hold your baby close so he can feel your breath on his face. Sing or talk to baby as you gently stroke or massage his skin.


• Hold your baby so his head snuggles under your chin. Sway together or rock him.


• Lie on the floor or bed with baby on your chest, bare skin to bare skin. Turn his head to the side so he can hear your heartbeat. Enjoy this closeness with your baby.


Daily care strengthens the bond:


Bonding in the delivery room is wonderful and helps parents connect with baby but if delivery complications delays this experience, don't panic. The process can begin even days after birth and it will continue for a long while, through the daily care you give.


Bonding has a physical aspect:

Bonding goes beyond emotional attachment to include physical bonding. It is good for you because it stimulates the production of prolactin and oxytocin, two hormones that bring out the maternal instincts in you. Bonding also keeps your baby's hormones in balance.


Feeding and bonding:

If you breast-feed, your bond develops through the feeding process. If you bottle-feed, let the father feed to strengthen their bond. Bottle feeding can build closer bonds if you:

• snuggle baby close to you during feeding and look into her eyes while you talk or sing to baby

• feed in a comfortable position or place e.g. a rocking chair

• heat formula to body temperature

• hold the bottle for baby and never leave baby alone with bottle


Point of concern:

When your baby lies on his side, the side he was lying on is red while the other side is a paler shade. This difference is caused by immature blood vessels and will soon disappear.